The Voice Within




Good Monday dolls!! I hope your weekend was bliss!! Here, it was lovely despite a little bit of rain. I got a lot done and am ready for the new week to begin. I was sat thinking the other day about life and how far I've come and what I still have in my mind that I'd like to achieve.  For those that don't know, I'm originally from America. A small town in the state of Michigan. Growing up was hard at times, we didn't have much money, a lot of the times we went without food. Kids made fun of me at school because I didn't have the latest fashions but what they didn't know, is I lived in a house full of sadness. I dreaded going home. There was always yelling and fights. Nothing I did was ever good enough. There was a lot of physical and mental abuse.  It's a hard thing to comprehend when your young, you think your mother should be the nicest person of all, but she was mean.  I tried and tried to please her and be a good daughter, but nothing ever seemed to make her proud. I actually don't recall hearing her say she was proud of me at any time really, even now. I grew up with no self-esteem, always trying to please people, afraid of making mistakes and not loving myself so well. Which only lead to more problems - self harm & eating problems. I felt alone growing up a lot of the time. Now that I have daughters of my own, I couldn't imagine ever giving them any moments of sadness or fear like that. I never want them to doubt that I love them. People tried to tell me all the time that because of who my mother and family were, that I'd become nothing. That I wasn't worth anything. But, I'd like to tell them & anyone else who has or is going through the same - that you are someone!! You are anyone you want to be & never let anyone decide for you. It's not where you come from, it's where you're going.  Some may be wondering why am I spilling all of this!?! Well, I think if I can help someone who might be going through the same thing walk out or do something about, then all of that sadness will be well worth it.  There are millions of children & teens all over the world that are alone, scared and living with abuse who have no one to talk to. And it has to stop. There is no excuse for it. I don't need my mother to be proud of me now, I am proud of myself. And my girls never need to do anything to make me proud, I am already for them just being born. I thankfully have had my husband to deal with the issues of my childhood - he's my rock. He's helped me to love myself as I am & see the beauty I possess. But, I know many have no one. I very much give time and effort into certain charities for kids: UNICEF - NSPCC - Children 1st - Barnardo's! There is a light at the end of the tunnel. My world is happy now, I have my girls & my husband and they bring the joy I need.  I've made it out of the small town, I've seen some of the world & will see more. And there is no one to stop me :)

Sorry if this is long or whatever, but I feel it's important & it's the reason I started my 'Lundi Love' (Monday Love) days. Because we all need love in this world & if we don't stand for something, we will fall for anything. And I want anyone reading this to find that courage within themselves and run with it...be who you are and love who you are! Because no one could be a better you than - you!!


Have a super Monday dolls!!

Love loves


“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss and have found their way out of the depths. these persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness and a deep loving concern. beautiful people don’t just happen.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross ♥
















“Every adversity carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit.” ~ Napoleon Hill


50 comments

  1. Oh Kizzy how brave of you to tell us - and thanks for that. It is so hard feeling alone, unloved and without confidence. You should be so proud of what you have achieved - becoming a beautiful person inside and out. I have tears in my eyes - Love to you and yours,
    Axx

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  2. I think that posts like this is the main reason why so many of us love your blog and everything that you do Doll. In life you weren't given too much yet you've taken all you were given and used it to drive you and ensure that you and your children grow up with a better standard of living than you did as a child and you've done it, not only that but you've done it with a smile on your face and warmth in your heart.

    I didn't know that you were actually originally from Michigan so it's cool to hear more about you as well, I love the photos too, especially of that runner.

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  3. beautiful post and very inspiring messages.

    Completely agree that Life is as easy or as hard as you make of it!!

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  5. What an amazing, heartfelt post. Thank you for allowing yourself to be so transparent and compassionate. Your words will touch many, and this blog will continue to inspire (as it has done for me each week!)

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  6. i always love your post,lovely week dear
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  7. You've picked out some great quotes as usual :) Especially loving the words of the 1st quote.
    Great post!

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  8. Very inspiring and touching post.

    hugs from New York,
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  9. Dear Kizzy, even though the start has been rough, you have grown strong, loving and beeautiful, which is propably all that life wanted you to become. You're such a great mum and friend and you're always inspiring. Cheers to you and to courage and the power of LOVE! Have a fab start to your week!

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  10. Life is as easy or as hard as you think it is- love that!

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  11. You have picked some great quotes! I especially love the first one.

    I think you should be proud of yourself and everything that you have accomplished. I agree with you that a lot of times based on family some kids get told that they are never going to amount to anything. Those kids can make it and do wonderful things if people are willing to believe in them and they are willing to work for it.

    Thank you for sharing this. It is very inspirational. I am teacher in one of the poorest counties in the US and a lot of my kids are dealing with these same issues.

    I hope you had a great weekend.

    Sunny Days and Starry Nights

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  12. I just love that first quote, so true! Going with it, with the right attitude is everything.

    Enjoy the start to a new week!

    leslie

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  13. Amazing!!!

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    xoxo

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  14. Thank you so much for sharing that with us. It's a very brave thing for you to admit. I also had a very difficult childhood and I'm actually estranged from my mother now. Sometimes you have to make the hard decision to cut the person out who is causing you so much pain. It's especially hard when it's a mother because mothers are supposed to be the most nurturing person in your life. The one that loves and protects you above all else.

    I'm glad that you've overcome your hard upbringing and that you have beautiful little girls to cherish and raise with all the love and support in the world. And I'm glad that you are proud of yorself. You're a strong and amazing woman, sweetie.

    Have a wonderful start to the week! xoxo

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  15. Thank you for the wonderful inspirations. I admire your strength and beauty and I'm glad you found your light and happiness. We should all be so strong and positive. Have a lovely week Kizzy!

    Rowena @ rolala loves

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  17. Oh thanks so much for such an inspiring post...
    loving the quotes.
    they kinda pick up my mood.

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  18. YOu are such a brave, strong lady! Thank you for sharing this!!

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  19. I found your blog via Anya Adores and wanted to thank you for such an inspirational story. I also know what it is like to grow up with uncertainty and fear. At the time you think you can't survive another day but you do.

    I marvel at the human spirit and how people can transform their misfortunes into something positive despite the odds. Learning to love yourself might seem easy but it isn't easy when you are subjected to mental and physical abuse. I'm so sorry that you had to go through such a sad and lonely childhood. No child should ever have to know what it is like to go hungry and experience the sadness you have had to endure.

    I congratulate you on your transformation. While your journey wasn't an easy one, you were able to rise above it with strength and determination and have become a better person because of it. :)

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  20. This is such a beautiful post and love that you have a positive outlook in live and you are raising good people to go out in the world to do good things!

    Have an amazing week!

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  21. Hey Kizzy, you are so brave to be sharing this with us. Believe it or not, I think that everything you have ever been through has made you an exceptionally strong and loving woman! You have such an incredible outlook on life and so much positive energy radiating from you.

    I was a real people pleaser too as a child, I guess that only made me more determined in life as I got older and achieve just that bit more than everyone else who had the perfect childhood.

    Much love to you lovely.

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  22. Wow, you have been through so so much, that must have been so hard growing up. How incredible that you emerged such a good and decent person and such a wonderful mother. Thanks for writing about this, so poignant and sad (yet with a happy ending, you have your own daughters now)

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  23. I needed some inspirational quotes on this dreary Monday. I can always count on you!

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  24. Wow! What an amazing and empowering testimony of love and superation. I am so sorry that you had to go through that painful path, but you are now a beautiful strong and amazing woman...God bless you and your family for that. XOXO

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  26. First I was going to write I felt sorry for the way you had to grow up. But then I realized I'm NOT sorry for it. For if you hadn't gone through all those hardships you might not have turned into the beautiful, loving person you are today. I have gone through LOTS of shit too. Everything from being the outsider in school, to mental abuse from my (then) weekend-alcoholic dad, to almost seven years of constant horrible pain, etc. But these are the things that make us strong and a bit "above" the persons who have lived more "normal" lives. I appreciate things so much more today than before I broke myself. Just being able to do things without pain. And after knowing how it feels feeling as bad as you can - but still staying alive - with the bad self esteem and self destructive thoughts and behavior, I accept other people and their problems a lot more than the people who don't know what it feels like. I never shake my head at what some people do to themselves anymore, cause I KNOW there is a really good reason they do it (according to themselves), but also that there is a way out, and that life can become worth living again! So to the people who has treated you - and me - bad in the past: Screw you guys! WE have popular blogs, followed and liked by many people! ;D Glad your life is much better now. The black scars remains in our souls, but it's those scars that make us special, cause we managed to get through it all, and now we're wearing pretty dresses! :) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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  27. Dearest Kizzy-
    You are such a beautiful, amazing, inspiring person!!!
    Thank you for sharing. I admire your courage & strength!!!
    Hugs!!!!!! Shannon

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  28. This is such a uplifting post. I think sometimes people forget that their words are powerful, especially when you're an impressionable child. Thanks for sharing with us your intimate part of your childhood. I was raised in a very strict family and it took me a long time to realise that I am just as good as my siblings or others. Believing in yourself is key. Glad that your world is happier now! Happy Monday dear.xx

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  30. You are a gerat person, reading your thoughts is always very educative!

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  31. Such an amazing post! So inspiring :)
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  33. I'm so glad you wrote about this Kizzy. I read recently about all these influential people, who all came from the most dire and adverse childhoods and it was from this place that they were able to gain the strength to make a difference. I have had some challenges in this department too and know the kind of deep reserves that make anything possible after passing through the grief. Love to you and your shining spirit this Monday!
    xo Mary Jo

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  34. what a beautiful set of inspiring qotes

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  35. You made me cry. I grew up in a similar situation and still struggle with not feeling good enough or being proud of myself. Ben's had to help me see that my writing and art is ok.

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  36. Dear, you are such a brave woman! Congratulations. I'm sure this text of yours will help a lot of readers.

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  37. another wonderful and uplifting post :) you are so amazing :)

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  38. Awwww. Im so proud of you! that is hard to grow up that way. I had many friends that went through that and I have seen many children grow up to be the same way or fall into physically and mentally abusive relationships too. Its very hard to break that cycle, but you have strength! Know that you are LOVED!!!!!!

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  39. Thank you for sharing this with us Kizzy. You are a wonderful woman and I just know you will pass on these wonderful qualities to your kids too!

    I grew up in a very unglamorous part of NYC and I am fortunate to be in a different place, but have always valued my childhood and the values it taught me!

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  40. WOW..Kizzy I applaud you for sharing your childhood with us. I've read stories about children that come from battered homes, my heart always goes out to them. You are a wonderful mom, and I can only imagine the love you have for your daughters, and the fantastic husband in your life.

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  41. Amazing post. I really do hope that someone reads this and finds comfort in your story to know that they don't have to deal with this alone. You're such an inspiring person :)

    xo erica

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  42. Such a great post, I think it's beautiful and also brave that you'd share this with the world and most of al that you've been able to create your own loving family. You're an inspiration!
    X Lisa Rosalie

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  43. That is so great that you give back now. It's so true what they say- What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger (And no, I'm not talking about the Kelly Clarkson song!) Sometimes we need trials like yours to help us become who we need to be!

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  44. I couldn't agree more with you! My father has never believed in me an dmy dreams, and for several years I thought he was right. But he wasn't. It's exactly like you said: it's not about where you are from, but where you are going. Thank you so much for these beautiful words!

    xx Ivana
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  45. kizzy, you just made me cry. your story is so heartbreaking, yet glorious in the way it turned out. you're such a beautiful person, that it's ashame you had to experience such horrible treatment. i'm so glad you got away, have a husband that loves and supports you dearly and beautiful children. it couldn't have happened to a better person. my mom is a social worker and she quotes elisabeth kubler ross all the time. that quote brought me to tears. you are such a powerful woman. your words speak volumes. you have helped many and there are so many more. ((HUG))
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