| 7 types of negativity to kill |

Happy Monday dolls, I hope you had a brilliant weekend. It was a rainy one here, so I was inside watching movies with my family. A Netflix and chill kind of weekend with Chinese food to celebrate our anniversary with our girls on Sunday too. (We spend the actual day with them & go out by ourselves another day as they like celebrating with us). But, I hope you have a fantastic start to the week. Have a great day dolls,

Loves & Loves

xoxox

7 types of negativity to kill

1. Perfection: Sometimes we try to achieve things that are completely unrealistic if we look at them logically. This can lead to feeling 'less than'. Perfection as the world tries to tell us doesn't exist to be honest, because the concept of perfection is different to each of us. What one finds beautiful or 'perfect' varies from person to person. I find perfection in faults...in 'imperfections' themselves. It means we're human, we're alive, we've been made in accordance to ourselves, like no one else, we're original. Unique is perfect and all of us shine like stars when we allow ourselves to see and love our rough edges, scars and otherwise make us who we are and that in itself is perfect. So trying to seek the world's idea of perfection is futile, we only need to accept & be ourselves and grow as individuals.
   
2. Judgement over others & yourself: when you judge others, you're only focusing on the negative qualities about others and yourself. Judging others when you haven't walked in their shoes only makes you look like an ass and we already have enough of those in the world, it only takes turning on the news to see that. It's only been proven to create more problems than solving them. Judging yourself is the same aspect, how do you expect to improve if you keep pressing on the same things. Judging won't help improve a person, it hinders. Sure, we all have faults and things we could do better, but being hard on ourselves or judging doesn't help improvements, it only causes fears or feelings of lacking as a person. And no one is perfect and always in need of improvement. 

3. Self-doubt: When you start to doubt yourself even a little, it starts as a small fire that soon gets out of control. Because one moment of self doubt creates another. But, happy healthier thoughts breed happier and healthier results and even if a situation doesn't come out the way we expected it to, a positive mind can create new solutions quicker and the ability to pick yourself up faster too.

4. Assuming the worst is always going to happen - Something I've never struggled with but, have had plenty of people around me that have. We'll never know the outcome of something until it happens, accepting that there are things in life that we can't control will actually leave us less stressed. Knowing that we are so small in comparison to this big world and that life is short, should move us to do all the things we can, so that we don't miss out out. Looking back and wishing you had completed something is far worse than looking back and knowing you gave it your best even if it didn't work out the way you wanted it to. Great things come from small failures but, you'll never find out if you always assume the worst is going to happen.

5. Worry - I'm not a worrier really myself, haha. Much to the annoyance of some people, I just don't see the point. It's not going to help me solve the issue or magically solve the problem either. Actually in crunch time situations, I tend to start laughing. It's only when someone that's stressing is around me do I feel tension in myself because I'm emphatic. I just know that any time I did have a brief moment of worry, I made the situation worse, when I remained calm, took a deep breath and stepped back, I was able to clear my mind and get through whatever I was facing easier and more effectively. 

6. Complaining - I'm not fond of complaining whatsoever really. I find complaints annoying. Not to be confused when a person really needs help or has an issue, like they're in pain. That's not complaining to me. But, when someone's complaining for selfish reasons like when you're in a store and in the checkout line and you feel it's not going fast enough for you & you start complaining about it. You're not helping the situation you just end up looking foolish.

7. Trying to be in control of everything - There is no way we can control everything, it's simply not how life works. If this was the case, I'd have won the lottery by now and be on some hot island somewhere but, alas I am not. Sometimes trying to control everything only ends up in everything going wrong whereas if you just left it to go how it would naturally, the result might have been better or the way it should have been. Control freaks are no fun either, you can cause yourself un-needed stress, which could lead to health issues. Life is a game of chance, that's what makes it fun, scary and un-knowing and fragile all at the same time. It's how we learn, grow and become better individuals. Life's twists and turns help us become the people we were meant to be. Just by doing our best and enjoying what we're doing, everything will work out just fine.